Online Dating Sites’ Numbers Don’t Mean Anything

“There are now 274,557 registered members…4,323 online now.

                                                                          “Largest Asian dating site; over two million members.”

“Largest Thai dating site; over one million members.”

                                                     “Join 544,422 members at the biggest free site…”


Online dating sites like to throw around a lot numbers…BIG numbers. Now any time you see a BIG number from an online dating site, remember there are a few things you need to take into account.

First of all, even if these numbers were absolutely true (which they’re not), they are all wildly inflated. Now, some would call that “marketing”, not lying. It really doesn’t matter anyway if you’re looking for a serious, single partner for a long term relationship. Scammers and serial daters need a large prospect audience. You, on the other hand, just need the RIGHT ONE, so it’s almost like a larger membership is not good news, because it means you are going to have to sift through more WRONG ONES.

A second word of caution just to keep you in the real world: when you see a claim of so many “xxxx members online now,” disregard it unless you don’t have a subscription to an online chat service and just want to “chat” with someone right now. First of all, again, these numbers are usually more or less made up. And what does it matter to you (unless you’re really lonely and don’t have the latest chat app on your device)?

And last, but not least, understand what the words that connect to the BIG numbers claims really could mean. “Registered,” “active,” “verified,” etc. sound good when these words are connected to “members,” but actually could mean nothing. A member could have “registered” five years ago, never formally cancelled the free level of their membership and still be counted in the giant pool of “registered” members. Words are just words on these sites, and can be applied very generally.

If you are serious about carefully finding your special someone, you should consider a matchmaking service like ours, Asian Western Love. We take an approach to your needs and interests that doesn’t rely on thousands of “possible” chances. We don’t see your relationship search as the lottery with comparable BIG numbers. You only need to find the right ONE, and having to sort through thousands doesn’t make that any easier or successful.



Confused by All the Special “Niche” Online Dating Sites?

ConfusedWell, if you are confused, no one could blame you, since it seems there are dating sites for just about every “niche” under the sun. These sites say they specialize in matching individuals that share some overriding common characteristic or interest: Gay (and separately “Lesbian”), Millionaire, “Sugar Daddies” (although maybe that one should go with “Millionaires), Christian (and I’m sure there’s one for “Atheists”), Single Parents, etc. etc. etc.

I think you get the idea —there’s unlimited ways to slice the dating “pie”. Of course you can always go with the big, monster online sites like Match, eHarmony, Plenty of Fish, even Tinder, but they’ve got their own problems, so maybe you’re considering going “niche ” i.e. targeted.

Below I’ll share just a few niche players that seem to be relatively established, just to give you the idea. Then I’ll add a couple newbies that stretch the envelope, so to speak, and prove that there are people trying to connect people with almost any interest.

And then, we’ll give you our take at Asian Western Love on whether you should even wade into the “online dating scene,” using a large or small site. Or maybe consider matchmaking as the better alternative way to find your “Right One.”

Millionaire Match  ( — All right! Here’s where you can find those rich partners who will make all your dreams come true…well maybe, if they’re not a sociopath and if they didn’t lie on their financial profile.

Disabled/Handicapped ( — This is actually a kind of nice site for those that want a partner that shares a disability with them. Of course, there’s nothing to say that they couldn’t find willing partners on the more general sites, who are happy to overlook whatever disability they have.

Geeks  (  — Guess this proves there’s someone for everyone. Who knows? When they get meet, maybe they can share a gigabyte together. I know. Bad joke.

OK, those are pretty tame, but now to stretch the envelope here are two sites that, again, prove there’s something for everyone.

Extramarital/Cheaters  ( Have no idea if there really is an “Ashley Madison,” but if you’re planning to cheat on your spouse, this appears to be the place to go. They’ve been around some time, so they are apparently successful and must be a good number of unfaithful husbands and wives out there.

Marijuana Smokers ( This is a new site and coincides with the pressure for legalizing Marijuana that’s  sweeping across the U.S. Wonder if it’s important to know/like more about your potential partner than they just like to smoke grass and sit around stoned all day? Guess that would cut down on domestic arguments, but two people with the munchies all the time might just blow the grocery budget.

So what do we at Asian Western Love think about the niche AND general online dating sites? Well, surprise, surprise. We think using any of them, or any ONLINE approach is a risky, time-wasting effort. We believe that you stand to gain more, have no risk by using a reputable MATCHMAKER. People-to-people drive the process of finding your life partner, not computer touch screens or keyboards. We can help you.

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